How do I make myself like my mother?

Ok your Mom's a difficult person, and doesn't seem real mature, especially charging you rent when you're not a legal adult. There seems to be some role reversal going on in the parent child relationship. It's possible that she could have a personality disorder.. However, I see that you're contributing to the ongoing pattern of conflict by participating in and escalating arguments. Don't argue with people, first of all it's not polite, and it's only going to cause hard feelings with whomever you're arguing with. Keep the conversation limited to light topics with your Mom and don't share your opinions. I also saw a red flag in how you describe your conversations with your Dad as being "riveting". Keep it light, stay cheerful and avoid the dramatic debates with people you love. You seem to be doing a lot of justifying, arguing, defending, and explaining. My impression is that you are being a bit needy in seeking affirmation of your opinions. I don't know if your Mom can give you the acceptance and approval you are looking for. And we all want acceptance from our parents, at any age! But if she can give you acceptance and approval, you will make it more likely to happen if you use a more conciliatory approach. I hope this helps you, good luck with everything. Hang in there honey, and try to be patient with these challenges.Seventeen is a tough age to be.